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  my daughter in vancouver, canada is getting married and the groom's parents are paying for the reception. what is my obligation as a father?
  My daughter is being walked down the asile by her brother just 5 yrs older than her, she wants him listed on the cermony program how should he be listed? He will be known by her family and friends but the groom's side and many co-workers won't know who he is, she doesn't want people asking who he is while they come down the aisle.
  What is the appropriate way to ask people for money gifts instead of physical gifts? We have all we need, but need money to help pay for honeymoon.
  This is my 2nd wedding, and my soon to be hubby's 1st.. He wants the traditional wedding (150 people wedding & reception in the same place, me in the white dress) there has been people talking saying I am WRONG, that our wedding should be small & I should NOT be wearing white... honestly it hurts to hear.. I am I wrong?
  My fiance and I are in our 30's. We are planning a nice reception of about 75 people, however our ceremony is an issue. My fiance is very shy and would like the two of us to marry in a private ceremony before the reception. How do I announce and invite people to the reception? Can I still wear a wedding dress? Please advise when you, this has turned into a huge family issue. Thank you!
  I am the groom's grandmother. The wedding is in mid-April, 2010 in Boston, MA. at 2:30 p.m. Is a cocktail-length dress appropriate for a wedding at that time? If not, what length dress is? Does "color" make a difference? If so, please make suggestions. Thank you!
  Is it OK to use a bank of lit candles in lue of altar flowers to decorate the church at a 2:30 pm wedding in September? Th church uses a set of beautiful candle stands to decorate for Christmas, and I'm thinking they would look great for the wedding.... BUT....Will it look weird or in bad taste to have candles lit while the sun is shining?
  My daughter recently got engaged and both her and her finance are thinking of a desination wedding. Although the are area is not far from us, (two hours), my question is as parents of the bride will we be responsilbe for paying for out of town guests? And do we pay for the wedding party lodging?
  Hi Valerie, Thanks for all of the good information I have already read on your site. My daughter is getting married in Hawaii next May. We know that most of our friends will not be attending, and we planned to send a photo from the wedding as an announcements afterwards. I know that many will send gifts. The kids are finishing college before the wedding and do not know where they will land jobs. They currently live with the grooms parents (very generous), and do not have too much ' 'stuff'' accumulated. They would like to keep it that way until they find out where they will be living. All that said, what they would like is financial contributions to their honeymoon, but the announcements would not go out until afterwards. Should we send announcements before with a registry insert (like your recommendation of RegistryPalace.com)? My daughter and I feel that the photo is more fun, and we don't want people to feel like we are asking for gifts. Any advice or ideas? Thanks, Kim
  Is it improper to announce our engagement at my finacee's cousins wedding reception? I believe it would be rude as it would momentarily take the focus off of the bride and groom, but my fiancee believes it would be perfect, as his entire family will be in one place, which rarely happens. We've already told our parents. Thank you for taking the time to answer.
  we are having a semi-casual wedding and have decided to have a taco bar (very non traditional) we know that we will have enough food but do we still need to have RSVP's? My fiance thinks that we don't but i am not sure. Thank you
  My daughter and her fiance are in their late 30's; she is doing Post Doctoral work(earning 45K and soon to be over 100K) and he has a job in the corporate world with a resonable income (75-90 K).His mom expects the brides family to pay for wedding. I am 64, a realtor earning no money. I personally believe that after having paid for a goodly portion of my daughters' living expenses without the help of her mom (we are divorced) and given their age and income potential, it is just not right to expect me to pay for their wedding. What do you think?
  My mother and father are deceased. My fiance is basically related to the lower half of Florida. Needless to say we are doing away with the traditional bride side/groom side. But, would it be in bad taste to drape two chairs and "dress" them, and place a picture of my mother and father on them? They would have been so happy to have been a part of this day. My fiance asked my son to be his best man and my daughter wants to by a bridesmaid so I will only have my sister sitting in the crowd. Also, my fiance does not want to invite his mother (ok by me) but his father and his wife will be there on "the grooms" side so I was wondering if this would be wrong to do, my parents pictures, because I know they will be there in spirit. Also, who could I ask to walk me down the aisle? I truely have no one. Could I ask his father?, or would it be more appropriate to walk alone (this could be a problem as I am blind and would need my cane). HELP!
  I am having a private ceromony and reception. I plan on having a big party afetr ther honeymoon. How do i go about justifing my actions so i dont upset others? and how to word invations to the party?
  What are/should be my duties and responsibilities as a step-father at my step-daughters wedding ? I am aware that specifics are up to my step-daughter, but I just want to do the right thing for her special day. Her father and her are close and he will be fullfilling his obligations, but I just want to be there for her in a low keyed manner.
  I am getting married in June '09 and this is a second wedding for both myself and my fiance. We are both divorced and I was wondering if it would be weird or inappropriate to have my dad walk me down the isle again. Originally I thought I wouldn't but I really want him to be a part of my wedding.
  Is it proper etiquette for a male to bring a male friend to a wedding as his guest. He is recently home from college and does not have a close girl friend to ask. Thank you
  A young man just got married. In planning the wedding the mother of the groom was not allowed to do anything. When the mother & father of the groom arrived, they were seated in a different position than the rest of the group and the groom showed up wearing a matching shirt of the father of bride, then at the reception there was a grooms cake. This really hurt the mother and father of the groom. I have a hard time understanding why the new bride treated the in-laws this way and why the groom allowed it. She was married before and complained about having in-law troubles in her first marriage during the relationship. Can you explain why a mother of the bride and bride would put a wedding together and leaving out the groom on one of his most important days of his life. The groom lived with his parents until he married. They did have a few problems but nothing that should have caused this rift. When asked the groom why this happened he stated that it was her wedding and that is what she wanted so he allowed her to. Now they hardly speak The parents and newlyweds. I need a explanation why someone would do something like this. Is it customatory for the groom's mother to be left out like this. I see nothing good coming from this relationship. The parents dont know what to do. Can you help?
  I sent a question in on 7/10/08. I have been searching for it and can not find the answer. It was put under Ceremony. Do you email the answers as well
  My son and his fiance are having a private wedding. Their wish is to have a "Blessing of the Marriage" ceremony and reception when they return from their honeymoon to share and celebrate with family and friends. This will be an outdoor late afternoon ceremony. The reception will be inside and outside As Mother of the Groom, what should I wear? Are evening pants and top appropriate? I need some suggestions. I considered black evening pants with a White w/ black trim evening top. Help
  I rarely go to church now, but went regularly growing up. I have asked my old youth minister to marry my fiance and I. He told us to get in touch with him 6 months prior to the wedding for premarital counseling. I tried to call to do this but the number has been disconnected. I have an address for him, but I really don't want to show up to his house. Should I write a letter? What would you suggest I do?
  We are getting married July 2009 but want to get a head start on our planning. I am having bridesmen instead of bridesmaids, we have planned for them(3) to walk in with their girlfriends and seat them in one of the front pews but how would we have them walk out with the groomsmen(3) so they don`t look gay??
  Hi Valerie. My fiance and I are both pagan and my mother is having a fit that we want to have a non-denominational ceremony. my Uncle Jim has offered to preform the ceremony but refuses to do a non-denominational service. what should we do? and #2...I want my father to walk me down the aisle but he refuses to wear a tux and when i suggested that he wear just the pants shirt and vest( as are the men in my party as we are getting married on a beach) he still said no and I don't know what to do. thanks, Chrissy
  Hi. I recently got engaged to my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. My sister who is four years older did not seem thrilled for us. Less than a month later she announced her engagement to her boy friend of 2 months. I feel like she is rushing this because she cannot stand the idea of her little sister being engaged before her. I am also hurt that she did it so soon after me. It feels like she is taking the spotlight of my engagement off me. Do you think I have a right to feel hurt by this? I believe her timing was distasteful. Do you agree?
  Hello Valerie! I am so glad I found your site. I am having a huge dilemma with my wedding ceremony. Here is a bit of background to help you understand the problem. My biological father was not a huge part of my life growing up, but my parents stayed married until I was 14 years old. They divorced and my mother remarried. My Step-father has been a huge part of my life now for 8 years and raised me through what I think was the most important time of my life. Since my parents divorce, I now have a relationship with my biological father, but it is definately not as strong and close as with my Step-father. I would like to have my step-father walk me down the aisle and have the father/daughter dance with him, but I do not want to hurt my bio-father's feelings. So, I have decided to include him also but I just don't know how. Do I have them both walk me down the aisle and have a father/daughter dance with both? This is the one thing that I have been stressing the most with throughout the planning. I just don't know how or what to do so things are awkward. Do they both walk and me and I split the daughter/father dance in half? If so, who do I dance with first? I need some serious help. I don't know what to do, but I would like to include both. Any advice would be AMAZING! Thanks for your time! I also have a question about the wording on the invitation, but I will post that in the appropriate thread.
  Hello. My fiance and I are having a destination wedding and having our honeymoon while we are there. For various reasons we have decided not have invite our families to come for the wedding but to come home and have a reception to celebrate with our families and friends. My parents and sisters are very happy and excited for us and support our decison. My fiance's mom is very hurt. I have been thinking that maybe we could have some type of small ceremony (maybe to "bless" our marriage) at home, before our reception, for our parents and siblings. Any ideas on what we could do? Thanks.
  Hello Valerie, I'm not getting married for just over a year, we've recently just gotten engaged and started the planning process. We have run into a big stumper with the wedding attendants. He doesn't have anyone really close to him that he feels comfortable asking to be his best man. He has moved around, a few times across the country, and therefore doesn't have any real close friends. And his jobs are not in social settings either. He is not close to his father or half- brothers either. I would really like my sister to be my maid of honor and my best friend to stand up for me too, but with him not being able to think of someone he wants to be there for him it is making planning difficult. But I don't want him trying to pick someone he isn't comfortable with either, not for a important day like this one. I don't mind having a creative or non traditional ceremony. I'm just not sure how to make it work in this situation. Can you please help or give us ideas? Thank you so much,
  Me and my Husband got married two weeks ago. It was a quick justice of the peace ceremony. Because of insurance purposes we had to do it before Jan. 1st. We are doing the whole ceremony over in April with bridesmaids and groomsmen then having a reception. Our justice of the peace says we can do the whole ceremony again, but I feel weird cause we are already married. She said a vow renewal is typically after 5 years of marriage. Do you have any advice on what could be done?
  My name is Christina. My fiance' has a daughter. I was wondering if their are any special traditions I can use at the wedding, I want to incorporate her into the ceremony.
  Hi Valerie! I'm getting married in 12 days and I have a bit of dilemma. The person who was going to be playing the music at my ceremony fell through. I am ok with and actually prefer using music from a disk at the ceremony. However, my mom is convinced that this is tacky and will "look bad." Now she has my paranoid because I want my big day to be as perfect as possible. Any advice?
  My Fiance and I are both getting married for the third time. He has 2 children, and I don't have any children. What can I do to bring them into MY family? I'm not sure exactly what I would have to do or what can be done to have a family ceremony since they will be my step son and step daughter. Another reason why I ask is because we are going to have a Military wedding since he is in the Army. Please help!!
  Hi Valerie, My name is Robin Sumner, My ex-husband were married for 15 years. We got a divorce almost 4 years ago, My question is, I have been to Gatlinburg Tn. before, and I love it there, My ex ask me to re-marry him. We just want to go to a small chapel, Do we have to have a witness? And do we have to get a marriage license? We just want it to be the two of us, spend a few days on our honeymoon there and come home, Would you please reply to my e-mail? Thank you very much: Robin Sumner
  I am under the impression that only the bride walks on the runner at her wedding. Is this correct?
  Hi Valerie Im getting married nov 3 2007. My Father passed a few years ago and we were very close, I have a half brother but we are not very close,but for the sake of "looks" I asked him to walk me down the Isle. Now I;ve had a change of heart. I dont Have any other male or female relatives that I feel are up to the job, and I rather walk myself down the isle, is this acceptable?
  I am a 44 yr. old widow. This will be the third time around for both of us. I found a cute Ivory colored wedding gown (a Sotello). My sister says it's not appropiate. What do I wear? I am getting married in a Chapel on Oct 28th.
  What is the purpose of the prelude. Is anyone seated during this?
  My younger sister is getting married in May. She is 13 years younger than me and 15 years younger than my brother. Our mother died over 20 years ago and I have been a surrogate mom to her. Our dad is 82 years old and walks very slow with a walker. Originally we were thinking of having my brother and I walk her down the aisle and have my dad up front. But now my brother is going to be a groomsmen and my sister wants dad to be with her going down the aisle. What is your thought about my sister holds hands with my dad who would be in a wheel chair and I push dad down the aisle. Or should Dad be up front and I walk her alone down the aisle. We want it to be tasteful but yet included important people in her life. Thank you
  Hi Valerie, My fiance and I are having a very simple wedding ceremony in a small church. I will have my maid of honor and he will have his best man. Would it be considered poor etiquette for us to have two of our close cousins act as unofficial ushers as a favor to us on that day? They would not be technically part of the grooms party and wound not be in a tux. Any advice you have would be wonderful. Thanks!
  Me and my finace have been engaged since may 06 and have been together for a year next month. we have been living together for alomost nine months. He wants the traditional wedding, without the church and preacher all the traditional things that come to mind when i think traditional wedding. anyway im 21 and my idea was to just go ge it done and the local courthouse, in the state i live in we are common law married, so heres the dilema, he wants a medium wedding all his family and friends and i want something very small if i have to go traditional, the only problem is the money and i HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO START!!! I so need some advice on how to start planning a wedding. We have decided we dont want any more than 50 guests, because half of my family just doesnt get along and i dont want my wedding ruined. Could you please please give me some pointers or advice about where to begin or if we should just do it the way i want it??thanks so much
  who is responsible for paying the church and pastor
  I am getting married in December and we have booked a Victorian style ballroom to have the ceremony and the reception in. But I have no clue how to decorate for this. Would I use tables instead of chairs??? Help is need Christine
  Was it wrong for the exsister-in-law, daughter and her boyfriend of the grooms parents to walk down the aisle and seat themselves after the parents were seated and the groom and the groomsmen were already in place for the ceremony?
  Valerie, I have been divorced for 13 years and my daughter is getting married in three weeks. We have been very close to each other. Her dad is not helping with the expenses and will be at the wedding. She wants me to walk her down the isle, will that be okay?
  I would like to know who i invite to my bridal shower. Right now i have about 60 guests invited and some are my 2nd cousins, who i dont know but my mom wants me to invite. Do i invite them?? Who do i invite?? I dont really have any ediqutte help from anyone and im not sure what to do or who to invite. PLEASE HELP!!
  My son is getting married. Iam divorced from his father. His dad had gotten remarried. And I am engaged to be married this fall. His dad & I do not talk. Who walks down the isle with who. Also the the brides mother is divorced and engaged, does she walk down isle with who? I am very confused HELP!
  Hi Valerie! I am full of questions, but I will try to limit myself! I'm trying to limit my stress the day of the wedding, so I have a church host and hostess and a reception host and hostess. However, I cannot seem to find anything anywhere saying what the exact duties of the church host and hostess are. I thought it was traditional to have them at least at the church. Can you help me with what their duties might entail?
  How much do you spend on someone to preform your wedding ceremony?
  Hi Valerie, I have a really big problem. I pondered for months about who was going to walk me down the isle. My step-father has been part of my life since I was 13 and is always there for me and I love him so much. My birth father who I also love very much lives within 10 miles of us and we don't see him very much but we love him too. My step-father hates my father cause he is not there for me as much as he should be. When I told him my decision to have them both walk me down the isle he said if my "birth father" walks me down the isle he won't be there and won't take part in the wedding. My step-father is paying for most of the reception. What should I do?
  Hi, Valerie. I just got engaged in Feb of 06. We are thinking about having a civil ceremony in May or June and then a semi-formal church ceremony in December. Is this ok? Our reasoning is because both of us lead very busy schedules and I don't think I would really have time to plan a church wedding before June. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated.
  What are the duties of the mother of the groom? Am I expected to help host the showers? Or should I just keep my mouth shut and wear beige?Cindy
  Hi Valerie! I have just become engaged. This will be the third time for us both. We are in our 50's, have grown kids, but want to have something small and memorable. What do you suggest?
  i have a few questions.first my step son is the one getting married. my husband and his sons mother dont get along.i wanted to know who should pay for the rehearsal dinner? or should it be spilt between us? i also wanted to know who all is to attend the dinner besides the wedding party? are they to bring a date or spouse? and the kids if there is any? and how many days before the wedding should you do the rehearsal? since the wedding is taking place in a park are we to the dinner there as well? or should there be at another place? what all should be served at the rehearsal dinner? should there be alcohol?thanks a bunch for your help in advance.
  I want to have both my dads involved in my wedding. My stepfather is the dad I consider "daddy". But I also want my father involved in giving me away?! Should they both walk me down the aisle? Both are paying for the wedding also.
  My step-daughter is getting married. My husband and his ex-wife do not get along at all. Are we supposed to pay for 1/2 of the wedding and she pay for the other 1/2? My husband does not want to dance with his ex-wife on the "father/mother" dance. Is that appropriate? Should there be a "father/step-mom" "mother/step-father" dance?
  I'm Presbyterian and my fiance is Lutheran... who's church do we get married in?
  I have 2 questions. 1-Who walks down the aisle right before the bride, the ring bearer or the maid of honor. 2-My brother is walking me down the aisle. My sister-in-law (his wife) is one of my bridesmaids. She will be walking down the aisle with a groomsman and another bridesmaid. Is it ok for her to walk back up the aisle with my brother or should she still walk with the other bridesmaid and groomsman.
  hi valerie, i'm having a little problem in the siting of the reception my fiancee and i want to seat by ourself but his mother says that it doen't look right, that the groom's man and the brieds maids have to seat with us i don't have a problem with it but I know that there parners have to seat with them and i realy don't like the best mans girldfriend and i don't want her in the main table, but the best man is my boyfriends brother. what can I do if I don't want her to seating with us and not make my boyfriends mom mad as well.
  Do you have to renew you wedding vows on the day you got married?
  My step-daughter is getting married at the end of next month. My husband found out this week that she has chosen her mother to walk her down the aisle. My husband is crushed. My step daughter told him that even though he was there for her, her mother was there for her more. My step daughter is now 29. When she was two, her mother sent my husband packing when she liked her new boyfriend better. My husband always visited his daughter at the appointed times and called her often. He paid more than was normally required for support. He always thought he was there for her. He has been invited to the wedding and the reception but now really doesn't know whether he should go or not because he feels that his ex-wife may choose that time to even embarass him more. What do you suggest?
  Is it ok to have 2 maid/matrons of honor? I have a dear friend whom I have not seen in years, but still chat with online. I have been married once before, but she was my hostess in that wedding. Long complicated story... so, is it ok?
  Hi Valerie, I was wondering if the bridesmaids typically walk down the aisle with the groomsmen? Or can the groomsmen walk out by themselves?
  Valerie - My son married his fiancé in Hawaii one year ago in May. Apparently she just had to get married all by themselves, barefoot in the sand. When I asked my son please wait and have a big wedding they promised me they would. Of course to this date they have not and keep saying they will. My dilemma is when they got engaged, I bought her a $1300 wedding dress, assuming they were having a big wedding. When this last week I asked them for my money back because there has been no wedding that they promised (and she said she would pay me back the amount did they did not have a wedding), she said someday they will have a wedding. What are the guidelines for the length of time a couple should have a formal wedding after having their own civil ceremony wedding? I think over a year is way past.
  Valerie, I have a very good friend is getting married in November. She has asked me to be one of 2 bridesmaids in her wedding. The reception is planned at one of the most out of the way expensive halls in town, where the rooms are $170 a night. Most of us can't afford this. What are the responsibilities to their guests as far as accommodations ? Thanks
  Hello Valerie. I'm having a beach wedding on Sept. 4th. My wedding dress is ivory and the bridesmaid dresses are peridot. If the groomsmen wear white shirts will this make my ivory dress look dirty? I'm also stumped about another accent color, flowers, and if my linens should match my ivory dress or just stay white? HELP ME!!! Thanks Valerie, this website is so helpful!!
  Hi Valerie! Is there an alternative to "clinking" glasses to get the bride and groom to kiss?I find this very annoying.
  My daughter is getting married in the Spring and I have a question I hope you can answer. I remarried 18 years ago and she is very close to her step-father and her father. She is planning on having both of them walk her down the aisle at the same time. My question is what is the correct etiquette on how this should be done? Is there a certain side they should be on? How does this work? Thank you.
  I am the mother of the Bride and my daughter has a girlfriend whom she loves dearly, but she is a quadriplegic and is bedridden, she can sit up in her wheelchair just not for an extended period of time. She also has her own language with my daughter, but she is unable to actually speak. My daughter really wants her to be in the wedding party. She would like her to be like a bridesmaid, however with her situation we are not sure how to do this. I thought maybe we could have her sit up front near the bridesmaids as like an honorary. Is this proper or not?? Do you have any other suggestions?? Please help us with this. Thanks so much, Vicki
  what is the proper wording for a cake and punch reception? my husband and i got married 2/14/05, and know have decided to make a formal wedding announcement.
  My wedding is going to be an outside wedding at a local vineyard. I was wondering what type of sound sytsem would be best so guests can hear our vows and also for our music? And more importantly where can I rent a sound system.? The reception is not being held at the same location so I can't use the DJ.
  During the ceremony, as everyone walks down the isle, which side should the bride and bridesmaids walk and which side should the father of the bride and groomsmen walk? And is it true that family of the bride be seated on her side as well as family of the groom on his side? Thank you
  Hi Valerie! I HOPE you can help me with my problem. First off this is my 3rd marriage and my fiancé's 2nd marriage. With y first 2 marriages I never had a wedding, the ST one we got married in our apartment with a preacher that lived across the hall from us and the 2nd one we were married at out local courthouse by a judge. His 1st marriage was an outdoor one at his Father & step Mother's home. My questions: Would it be appropriate first off for us to be married in a church and 2nd of all for me to wear a white wedding dress? My sister would really like for me to wear her dress but it is white and I just don't know if that is appropriate or not. I was thinking of an off white or cream colored dress. What do you think? Also my Father passed away in 2003 so I am asking my brother-in-law to walk me down the aisle and give me away. My fiance's Mother died when he was 11 and he was mostly raised by his older sister. Since there will obviously not be a Father/Daughter or Mother/Son dance we are wanting to do both at the same time with my brother-in-law and his sister. Do you have any song recommendations for us to use for that dance with the 2 of them since we will do them at the same time? Thanks so much for any and all help that you can give to us, it would be of much appreciation.
  When the parents, and grandparents are being seated during the ceremony, should the music be specific for the mother of the bride, and then the parents of the groom, and for the grandparents. So in other words, does the mother of the bride get a song for her, and then the others get songs for them, all different from each other? Also, Are all they all seated after the prelude, for everyone to see? Or, are they seated during the prelude with no attention given to them?
  Hi Valerie! As far as the ceremony goes, what is the order in which everyone walks down the isle? I want both mothers involved, my step-dad, my father-in-law to be and all of our grand parents. Then how will the wedding party go if i have a Matron of honor and a Maid of honor?
  I would like to have a Saturday wedding, but the location I prefer is already booked for the year. I am left with a Friday wedding. What is the etiquette concerning the start time of a Catholic ceremony? I'd like the reception to be a sit-down dinner as well. Also, what is the general opinion on Friday weddings?
  whose grandparents are seated first, the bride or groom
  My sister is getting married in a few months. She can invite 150 guests to the wedding and reception due to the size of the building that was rented and also due to her budget. There are other people she would like invite but just can't. Is there any way to let these people in on her special time without making them feel like they're not as important because they weren't invited to the actual wedding ceremony? Or should she just leave them out entirely and not mention anything that's going on relating to the wedding? Please help!!
  Dear Valerie, I am getting married next October, 2005. My fiancé and I have decided to get married and have the reception on the same site. Neither one of us is very religious and we were trying to figure out who would actually preform the ceremony. I know that you can hire and officiant, but we were thinking of asking my uncle to do it. We are both very close with him and would love to have him marry us. However, I wasn't sure if this was legal. I was told that he can get ordained on line, and really it's just the marriage certificate that counts. So as long as we sign the legal certificate it won't matter who marries us. Is this true? And do you think this is a good idea? Any advice would be great! Thanks.
  Can you tell me when is the appropriate time for the wedding guests to stand during the processional? I was recently at a wedding when they stood as soon as the procession began. I thought they remained seated until the mother of the bride stood, signaling the bride's entrance.
  Where in the ceremony do the flower girls and the ring bearer come in?
  hi, I'm planning a wedding for October of 2005 we want to go with like a precious moments all around theme but what colors would be good for that time of year?
  Hi, Valerie. My boyfriend and I will be engaged next summer, but I've already been thinking about one big aspect of the wedding: location. We live in Minnesota, but I'm from New York. Almost his entire family is in Minnesota whereas a lot of my family is spread out around the country; however, my parents and friends are in New York. I'm wondering where the wedding should be. I don't think it's fair to ask his family to travel to New York, and I'm not sure how many of my friends and family would come out to Minnesota. I've heard it's tradition to have the ceremony in the bride's hometown, but that doesn't seem to be the easiest option. I've also heard about destination weddings, but that means all guests would have to pay to travel, which I want to avoid. I just want it to be simple for everyone, although it doesn't seem as though that will happen. Any suggestions?
  My fiance is a USMC quadriplegic veteran, age 38. His first wedding, my second. We met when we were 13. He desires a intimate beach wedding (Florida). His injury is non service related but he would like to wear his dress blues. We only plan on about 40 people. We need ideas for the attire (beach) ceremony and rception. (funds are very tight) We have written our own vows as well as personalized the ring ceremony. Any ideas will be helpful.
  The way our church is for a wedding is somewhat strange. There is no center isle. The front has steps with an u shape stage. The bride has asked if her dad gives her away at the bottom of the steps and her groom escorts her up the 2 steps and they get on the u shaped stage would it be in poor taste for the bride to be on the right side instead of the left when they get on the u shape. The reasoning is the dress the bride has chosen has a beautiful side on the right. What do you think. Groom on left and the Bride on Right. Just during the cermony.. Walking up the isle and down would be the corrrect sides.
  How can I incorporate a catholic and christian wedding together? I've spoken to one priest already and he says that the other priest is more then welcome to sit in on the ceremony, but not able to say a word. I would love it if I could possibly find a way to accomodate both parties. Any suggestions?
  Dear Valerie HI i am a little confused is it possible to go throught a justice of the peace to get married adn have the ceremony a few months later as in really get married or is it against the law
  I was told by a pastor that if we were to be married at his church we could not play the wedding march "which my grandmother recorded before she died" because it was paganistic, is this true, and if so how did it become part of the wedding ceremony?
  Is it all right if my son who is 12 and my dad were to both give me away at my wedding? My other question is where can I find a long-sleeve lilac wedding dress? I have been married before so I don't want this one to be very traditional. Thank you...
  i am having a double wedding and not real sure how to do ceremony. DO you take turns saying vows or do one of us say them then the other couple? so confused
  Hi, My question pertains to the wedding ceremony. I am going on vacation to the beach next summer and I hav always dreamed of being married on the beach, but I also want a church wedding. Can I have a small civil ceremony on the beach with just my immediate family and then the following spring have a church wedding with normal wedding vows? Or would it have to be a renewal of the vows? The ceremony on the beach would not be a religious ceremony.
  I am having an outside wedding and there is only going to be to rows of 5 chairs for the handi-capped/elderly the rest is for standing. Is there a way that I should put up a nice poster-board sign stating that this is a wedding that is a stand up event?
  can i still get married in a church even though i never did my communions or confirmations?
  The Location I picked for my wedding is a dream. I found it on a naval base and booked the site. The place gave us two week before a deposit was due nine days after booking the place we tried to pay the deposit and they told me the date had already been booked and taken. What am I supposed do now? They do not have anymore Saturdays avaliable and it was the perfect date not to mention my announcements have already been ordered. now I have to have the date changed. Any advice?
  What can we do to make sure everything goes on schedule?
  What do we do if we have an outdoors wedding and it rains?
  How do we choose a location for our wedding?
  I have about 300 guest that have RSVP'D, however the ceremony is out-of-state, I expect around 200-250 how many wedding programs would you suggest?
  Do I have to have the same number of groomsmen and bridesmaids?
  How many wedding attendants do I need?
  Do all my bridesmaids have to wear the same dress?
  What percentage of invited guests can I expected to come?


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