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  Hi Valerie, I'm getting married in June and my father will be attending, but due to all the treatments for cancer he lost all of his hair. He's really having a problem showing up without hair. I know he's now wearing hats and I want to make him more comfortable by myself and the best man wearing hats. I know he likes wearing a Fedora, but is it appropiate to wear a hat (not top hat) with me being the groom?
  Hi Valerie, would it be inappropriate for the mother of the groom to wear an ivory dress?
  Hi Valerie, My step son is getting married in Florida this November. Do you think it's appropriate to wear a red gown? I've asked his fiance about the wedding attire and said to wear whatever we want. His mom is wearing a lavender color gown and I'm not sure of the color of her mom - black or plum - I believe. the bridemaids are wearing navy blue. I'm from ny and I'm used to getting pretty dressed up for weddings. It's in a really nice place in Boca Raton and my husband (the groom's father) is wearing a blace tux. The bride is wearing a beautiful lace gown. The red gown is very tasteful and elegant but I'm not sure about red. It's not a bright red, its dull. We will not be in any pictures with the mom.
  Is it ok if i wear a burgundy bow tie with white dots and my groomsmen wear a solid wine satin bowtie with a wine cummerbun? I was thinking it might be a color riot. i am not sure about the combination.
  is it ok if my best man and i wear a bowtie and a vest while my groomsmen wear just a bow tie and a cummerbun? Is it also ok for a groom to look slightly different from his best man?
  Hello, my 2 of my bridesmaid dresses is lapis and i wanted to know if i put the other 3 in levendar would it look right
  hello and thanks for this website. Im getting married september 12 at 5 pm....im having my bridesmaid dresses in watermelon almost fusicha color, my question is would putting the guys in a tangerine look bad at all?
  Hi Val I am getting married in Sept 09 garden style event, after pictures and dinning I would like to change out of my dress and put on beautiful linen pants suit is this ok??
  My daughter is having a 7 pm wedding and the MOG and I are wearing long dresses. My mother in law (77 years old, a widow) has bought a strapless tafetta silk dress with ruching from bodice all the way down to the knees. If is very form fitting and has a trumpet skirt. It looks like a prom dress or pageant gown. She was very offended when I told her it was more formal than mine and the MOG dress. I don't think it's appropriate for a woman her age although she normally dresses very stylish for her age. It is going to a topic of contention but I am not sure what I should do, if anything about it. What are thoughts, advice?
  Hi Val, I am getting married in october and my dress is white and apple is it ok for my groom to wear a black tux and apple vest and tie? I dont want it to look akward.
  Hi Valeri, if the bride is wearing a long formal dress, and the maids are wearing tea length. is it OK for the Mother of the bride to wear either a long, a low high, or a tea length dress? ( the guys will all be in black tuxes.) Thanks so much!
  Hi I am wearing an ivory dress. I guess my question is should the guys wear ivory dress shirts or white. I am thing ivory but just not sure. If ivory what color do you think works best for the tie. O and the suits are black. Thanks in advance for your help
  Do you get your hair or makeup done first?
  I am 43 and getty ready to marry for the third time. We plan to be married by the justice of the peace, but then have a huge blow out wedding dance. Is it ok to wear a traditional wedding dress for the dance?
  Hi Valerie, so glad to know your service is here. Thank you in advance. I am wearing an ivory gown. We want the wedding party to wear red and black which are our old high school colors. Big question is - can the flower girl basket, ring pillow, favor organza bags etcetera be white? I already have a few white things that were given to me. or Do you think I need to get a white dress? Thanks for your time.
  Hi Valerie, My dress is ivory, can the ring pillow, flower girl basket etc. be white. The wedding party colors are red and black. Thanks for your time.
  Hi. I'm getting married on May 16th and I really want a rose red color for my bridesmaid dresses. Is that color okay for a May wedding or should I pick lighter colors? Also, what colors would go well with rose red for my other color? Thanks
  Hi Valerie- I am having a fall wedding and my bridesmaids are all plus size woman and top heavy. My question is what colors would look good on them? I originally had brown and pumpkin for my colors. Please advise
  Dear Valerie: We are having a semi-formal reception in the afternoon. My wife's daughter thinks I should not wear a tuxedo and my wife is not sure. we got married earlier in the year.. what is the best way to get dressed// I always wante dot wear a tuxedo, this my our fouth marriage for both. Please advice. thank you Franco
  Valerie, My daughter's wedding is on October 13th at 6:30. Her colors are red and black. Is a black formal pant suit appropriate?
  My step-son's wedding is in November at 5 p.m. The mother of the bride is wearing a long, strapless dress with a cover. What is appropriate for me to wear? I'm cold natured and the wedding is in PA.
  I don't see my question answered so far. I am the grandmother of the groom. The wedding is full length, tuxedo attire, even for the mother of the groom and bride. I am 81 years old and have no use for a long dress. I have a black tea length very dressy skirt and top which I can wear with a pink silk jacket. The wedding colors are cafe au lait and shades of green. Am I way off track? Does it even matter what a grandmother wears?
  Is it proper for the Bride to wear a long dress and maid of honor and bridesmaids to wear tea length dresses. It's an outdoor wedding. The groom and groomsen have selected a jacket type Tux with vest.
  My son is getting married in December on a cruise ship. What is appropriate for the Mother to wear as far as colors and style?
  does the father of the bride wears the same attire as the groom and groomsman?
  If fathers of the bride and groom wear tuxedos, shouldn't the Mothers be in formal attire as well, meaning gowns. What is acceptable as formal for todays ladies. I always feel gowns. Am I correct?
  My son is getting married in Dec. in the very late afternoon in a church amid potted pine trees. They have chosen colors of burgundy, brown and green, earthy autumn colors. What is appropriate for me to wear? I'm very attractive to these colors myself. Every dress I've been attracted to so far has been one of these colors. Help!
  Valerie, I need help making a decision on what to wear to an outdoor wedding, 5pm, in October. Mother of the bride, bridesmaids, are wearing black. Other colors for the wedding are orange and teal. Please Help!
  hello valerie im attending a wedding in november can you please tell me what i can wear or what color im a fullfigured woman and the wedding is in newyork and its cold here now. can you please help thank you
  Hi, I'm going to a morning wedding this November in PA. I've been asked to assist with the guest book. The colors of the wedding will be brown and purple. Would it be ok to wear a black & white knee lenght skirt with a black sweater, or would something in mauve be more apropriate, since it is a morning wedding? Thank you for your help.
  I am a male and i was just asked to be a bridesmaid in a firends wedding. We discussed things and she has stated that she wants me to dress the same as all the other bridesmaids(which is a strappy dress the lingerie and tall heels) i dressed up once as a female for a party when we were in college and now she thinks i can do it again i am very passable as a female and i dont mind dressing for this occasion what should i do.
  I am a 44 yr. old widow of 4 years and have been dating a wonderful man for a few months, there are no wedding plans yet but I am wondering if a widow can wear white or a cream color dress or what color should be wore, my favorite color is blue and what type of dress, i am only 4 ft, 11 in. and my boyfriens is 6 ft, 2 in.. I hope you can advise me, also I dont like a lot of lace or frills, so any dress I pick out would have to be something kind of ordinary but stand out for the big day if it happens. Also if I do get married, can I keep my last name and hypen with my new last name, as I have a mentally handicapped son and dont wish to lose the name his father gave to me when I married him 20 years ago. Thank you
  Hi Valerie, Please help! This is my son and future daughter inlaws 2nd wedding, on the 1st October at 10am. I was told it is informal I can wear anything. My future daughter inlaw is wearing a slack suit I dont know what her mom is wearing as she has'nt decided yet, I am wearing a olive green slack suit with a stone colour top with bag and shoes to match, please help what can my husband wear? surely not a suit.My future daughter inlaw told me guests are even wearing denim ! sounds weired to me many thanks Liz
  Is a black tea length dress appropriate to wear to an outdoor wedding beginning at 6pm? My husband is in the wedding and is very a tux. The wedding is Oct.6 in Arizona. Thanks for your advice.
  Hi Valerie, I'm getting married next November in an outdoor morning wedding (10:30am). The ceremony and reception are to be on the grounds of a beautiful waterfront historic mansion. The kind of address that makes people say WOW when you mention the location. Although I've already chosen the color for the girls to wear (chocolate brown) I'm in discussions as to the length of thier gowns. My MOH & FMIL and a few others thinks tea length dresses are appropiate for a morning wedding. My Finance and several of the other bridesmaids are saying that floor length is appropiate. Which is correct? And also if tea length is correct do the guys still wear tuxes, or suits? I'm so confused. Don't get me started on the flowers. I'm totally stuck on what colors to use there. UGH! HELP ME!!!
  What should a bride wear for a third wedding
  Hi Valerie- I am getting married in September and my father is paying for the entire wedding. My mom refusses to help in any way. Now my mom has a boyfriend who has been in my life for 9 years now, does he wear a tux or just a nice black suit? I dont want to offend him or my dad so I dont know what proper etiquette would be. Please help!
  Is it customary for the Groom's Father to wear a tuxedo. The Bride's Father, as well as all Groomsmen and Ushers will be wearing Tuxs.
  what should you wear to a wedding that is taking place in a park in june?(4th) the colors the bride has choosen are hunter green and burgendy.the wedding party is about 14 people in it.not counting the person preforming the service. should i try to somewhat match the colors that they are doing the wedding in or not really be concerned with it? im the step mom of the groom and im not sure of which to do.
  I was asked to be a bridesmaid I agreed and paid for my dress. The ceremony is getting closer the bride got upset with a bridesmaid and basically told her she was not going to be in the wedding. At the last minute a relative was asked to take her place. At the dress fitting my dress needed to be altered without my consent my dress was given to the cousin and I was placed with the other dress. Am I responsible for price of the alterations?
  My daughter is getting married 6pm Oct 8, in Texas. The weather will still be in the 90's. She has chosen a solid Wine/Burgundy formal length for her bridesmaids color. I have narrowed it down to 3 formal dresses, 1st a solid Wine dress and solid jacket, 2nd is solid Wine dress and flower print jacket, and then the 3rd (her Dad's choice) a scarf type material, formal length small Burgandy flowers on light pink background for both dress and jacket. I told him I think I would stick out amongst all the solid colors. My daughter is Active Military and can't see the three to choose. Honestly I'm a 3X size and all three are very becoming, I lean toward the solid dress, and flowered Jacket, as to be a little different from the Bridemaids but still match. Please give me your opinion.
  i am going to my brother's wedding on sept. 17th and it is at 630 pm and i dont know what im supposed to wear . it didnt say casual dress and i have heard that after a cartain time it goes to a formal dress. please help.
  Hi Valerie, I have been married for almost 13 years, but on September 10, 2005 my husband and I are going to renew our vows in the Catholic Church. What is appropriate attire for me as the "bride"?
  I’m thinking of renting my wedding gown, since I don’t see the point of owning a dress I’m only going to wear once. How does renting work? Does it affect the quality and quantity of gown choices I will have? Do most gown stores rent?
  Good Evening Valerie, I am not sure if you got my first question I posted 6/5/05. I was wondering if I could use a steamer to take wrinkles out of my wedding dress if I get some (wedding is in 7 weeks) and is it ok for me to keep the dress in the plastic bag that was put in at the Bridal Store till the wedding (kind of like a Dry Cleaner's type of bag) Thanks for your help
  My only brother is getting married. My daughter will be their flower girl and I thought they would ask me to be a brides maid since I am his only sister, but instead I have been asked to be the greeter at the reception. Am I over reacting or do have reason to feel insulted. Also ...What is considered appropriate attire for a reception greeter and sister of the groom. This is an evening wedding with about 250 people.
  Valerie, My daughter is getting married August 27th at 2:30 in the afternoon. Her colors are black and red. What am I supposed to wear for a ceremony at this time of day?
  Hi. I am the mother of the groom for a July evening wedding. Is it permissible for me to wear the same color as the bridesmaids. The wedding will be Silver and Red. I have a really pretty red pants suite that is very dressy and I would like to wear it to the wedding. My husband will be wearing a tux. Is this appropriate.
  I am getting married for the second time. We are going to get married on the beach in Flordia with just our families being there. We want this to be very informal what should we wear for a 4PM ceremony on the beach?
  Hi Valerie: I am getting married in September and there has been some debate over what the groom's father should wear to the wedding. I am having a very traditional wedding and traditionally the only person other then the groom and the groom's men that wear a tux is the father of the bride. The grooms father isn't part of the bridal party. What should he wear the day of our wedding?
  My wedding was normally planned for an October wedding until an issue with my grad father arrived. so i had to change it to a June wedding. see, i had already picked out my gown and i thought that with it being ivory with wine in it (i wanted to be different) it would look perfect. so my question is will it look OK for a June wedding. ( it has flowers that are wine in color with the background of ivory on it) HELP
  Is it normal to change from wedding gown to something else more casual like a suit or dinner party dress for the reception, if so when does the outfit change occur? Thanks.
  My fiancé and I are going to Cancun for a private wedding ceremony and we are having a reception we we get back home. Is it appropriate for me to wear my dress, have a caterer, flowers, etc.? Thank you.
  I am a divorced mother getting remarried in May,Would the traditional white be OK to wear or do I need to wear a cream color dress. My first marriage I never had a wedding so this is all new to me?
  My Stepdaughter is getting married in April in North Carolina. Her color for bridesmaid dresses is Periwinkle, her mother has chosen purple for her dress. Can you please suggest some colors that would coordinate nicely with these colors. I am concerned with the photos, I don't want to clash with the other colors. Thank you.
  what are the colors for a summer wedding? i just don't know what colors to choose
  My stepdaughter is getting married October 30th, in Philadelphia. I recently bought a torquoise silk dress at an end of summer sale. Would a short sleeve torquoise dress be appropriate for an October wedding? It is an afternoon wedding.
  MY husband and I had to move our marriage up by a year, due to his being in the Navy and he received temporary orders to Iraq. Now, we are having our big wedding in March. Because we have already combined two house holds we do not need very many things. Because of this, we have decided that rather than the normal wedding gifts we would like to have financial help for our honeymoon. How do we advise people of this? A friend of mine listed it with her invitations. How do I word it if that is the case?
  my fiancé is in the service, and he doesn't get sent overseas right after his AIT graduation, then we're planning on getting married. The trouble with that is that we probably won't know if he's granted a leave until about a month in advance. Is there anywhere i can get invitations ordered without the dates printed so my bridesmaids and i can handwrite them as soon as we're notified of his leave? I mean, i could get them rush-printed, but we're on a tight budget and i was wondering if there was anything cheaper to do, like that kind of invitation.
  What advice can you give me about my make-up for my wedding?
  Should I be worried about how my guests will dress?
  Can the groom wear something different from the groomsmen?
  How can I get an inexpensive wedding dress?


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